I am happily married. My husband is a graduate from WVU with a degree in Political Science, is conservative, and therefore has a clue when I end up flying off on a tirade about whatever happens to annoy me in the world of politics. He’s probably not as well-versed on the Middle East as I am, but for the time being, he holds his own. He’s also a Christian, and a leader in his church. Occasionally he gives me the evil eye for staying in bed when he’s getting ready to take our son to church, and occasionally I break down and join him. My “church” is watching the Sunday morning political programs while browsing the opinion pages of our Sunday paper. I’m regularly accused of being “liberal” at worst, or a RINO at best because I don’t go lock-step with social conservatives when it comes to issues of morality. My answer has been, and always will be, it is not my job to police the moral lives of others, and it definitely isn’t the job of government. My husband, my dog, my cat, and occasionally our son are the only ones welcome in my bed, thank you very much. I regularly toss out the canine, feline, and child, and would never allow Uncle Sam there in the first place.

Sarah Ackerman (CC)
But the National Organization for Marriage and many social conservatives including
Mitt Romney would just love to invite that old man into all of our bedrooms. Why? I can only assume that all of these people think that good and decent people in this country need the government to protect the sanctity of marriage because they can’t do it for themselves. They need governmental intervention to proselytize, and defend their religious beliefs about marriage from evil heathens like me. You see, I am wrong, because I don’t want anything to do with invading the privacy of my neighbors, and telling them what to do with the most intimate parts of their lives. I don’t need to control the actions of others to protect the sanctity of my own marriage, so I must be going straight to hell. (I’d be a little worried, if I actually believed in any of that stuff.) And most of all, because I don’t believe in a Judeo-Christian deity (or any deity at all for that matter), I must be marked as an evil individual determined to put an end to Christianity as we know it. (That’s why I get into screaming matches with my husband every week for taking our son to church – oh, I forgot, I don’t do that!)
With all of the pledges going around, I started thinking, maybe there should be yet another one. Call it the “Promise to Prioritize”. It goes like this:
We the undersigned promise to not cater to religious organizations playing in politics, regardless of whether or not we happen to agree with them, before managing a few important problems our nation faces. We will engage in meaningful debate about social conservative ideals after our nation has managed to overcome our debt problem, high unemployment rate, and our dependence on natural resources from foreign nations. Defending moral principles through legislative action will be our top priority once we have enacted common sense reforms to the healthcare reform law, or have rescinded it entirely and successfully passed a truly affordable plan for our country. We will address the concerns of faith-based organizations seeking to legislate their principles once we have extricated our nation from all military actions abroad, with the exception of maintaining a peaceful presence on foreign soil. Once these issues of great importance have been addressed, we will faithfully toil to settle once and for all the true meaning of the separation of church and state, and use as our guiding principle the words of one of our Founders, Thomas Jefferson – “It does me no injury for my neighbor to say there are twenty gods or no God.”
We have far more important things to worry about than who is sleeping with whom and who wishes to be considered married. If your marriage loses value because of another couple, the problem isn’t that other couple – it is you. If you need the state to defend your belief system, it is not the fault of those that have different beliefs than you do. You are the problem, and your lack of faith is the problem. If one is a true believer in any religion, the actions of others that do not share that belief system are meaningless. Forcing one’s beliefs on the world at large is precisely what followers of Islam are accused of doing, especially when it involves acts of terrorism. Demanding legislative action in the name of one’s faith in this country is its own kind of terrorism – it is demanding that the beliefs of others be marginalized, and that those people do not deserve freedom. It is patently un-American. This country was started as a haven from persecution for people that wished to follow a religion that was despised in their homeland. We don’t need to come full circle, and become the ones that persecute, do we?